For everything, there is a time and place.

I have been really intentional about clearing up my social media timelines. You’d be amazed at what happens to your mind when you clean up what goes into your spirit. Not everyone I unfollowed or unfriended was negative. Some just didn’t feel right with where I’m trying to go in life. I’ve gotten most of the noise away and I’m left with business tips, positive affirmations, encouraging posts, comedic relief, and spiritual motivation.

But every now and then, a post comes along and I realize I didn’t clean my timeline up so well.

You know the person I’m talking about…the one who “always keeps it 100.” They mention any and every mistake someone makes, bashing them into shame for certain decisions and then puts up the disclaimer, “I’m just keeping it 100, so don’t be mad.”


I learned a while ago that tact is a missing characteristic from social media. People believe they can comment and say anything they feel like it, because it’s real. It’s clear that no one ever taught them that there is a time and place for everything.

But when you think about it, this thought can be applied to all aspects of life. We go through so much, trauma after triumph, victory after adversity, issue after assurance, pressure after peace…it’s a non-stop cycle. If we don’t stop to understand the seasons in our lives, we get caught up and pulled without even realizing what we are missing.

I recently made a post saying that I am ready for everything God has for me in 2018. This includes the blessings and the lessons. Learning to take my seasons for what they are worth, I realize that I have time. In any situation, I have time to process my feelings. I have time to overthink it. I have time to pray and plan. I have time to work it out.


What I don’t have time for is bottling up my emotions and running myself dry until that inevitable moment when it comes out like lava. When this happens, I can guarantee you that I won’t be the only one hurt in the aftermath. Why do we wait until it’s too late to realize we had a time and place to let our emotions out?

Cry. Scream. Yell. Throw something. Take that moment to feel. You are allowed that. However, there are some times and places where this begins to feel a little less genuine and a little more attention seeking.

I am grateful to know those who I can genuinely vent to, and most of the time we all do, we just make a decision to do something else. Social media is not your therapist.

Social media is. NOT. YOUR. THERAPIST.

Don’t be fooled by the mirror image of support and love on social media. I’ve heard someone say, “if you live for the compliments, you’ll die from the criticism.” This is absolutely true. Don’t bank your life on what others think.

Now, in the same token…be mindful of the things you post and say. You don’t have to say everything you think. You never know how someone feels or what they are going through and your negativity can damage their recovery even more. If you want to speak on any issue on social media, speak life into it. Offer solutions. Be encouraging.

Give what you want to get. There’s always time to recover.


3 thoughts on “For everything, there is a time and place.

  1. Tiffany says:

    I think that social media gives so many people the “courage” to say things they otherwise wouldn’t say to a person’s face. We absolutely should be mindful of what we say because behind the screen is a real-live person with feelings just like us.

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    • christiancashelle says:

      I definitely agree. Being in customer service in face and over the phone taught me that lesson. People get blind courage when its not a face to face interaction and it’s sad. Thanks for reading!


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