“Stop the negative self-talk, stop abusing your body, stop putting it off for tomorrow or Monday or next year. Stop crying about what happened and take control of what happens next. Get up, right now. Rise up from where you’ve been, scrub away the tears and the pain of yesterday, and start again…Girl, wash your face!
I’m going to be honest with you guys…I did not meet my reading goal last year. I want to give the excuse that my editing business picked up (and it did) but as a writer there is really no excuse for my lack of reading.
In true new year fashion, I’ve challenged myself to read at least 24 books this year. “Girl Wash Your Face” by Rachel Hollis was first on my list. I will say that this book definitely gave me some insight on things I’ve blamed myself for. Rachel’s compelling way of turning her own thought provoking stories into andetoces that I could relate to was immediately noticeable. Rachel Hollis has created a media company and written fiction and non-fictions books. Her career journey is similar to mine and reading her journey to where she is now has inspired me to keep pushing.
This year, I’ve decided to take more care with my book reviews and separate them into categories:
- What I loved:
I loved that it wasn’t fluff. It wasn’t all “oh you can do anything you put your mind to” in the way that some personal development books are. However, it was very real and challenged me to address the weaknesses that I identify with.
I also loved that at the end of each chapter, Rachel offers a list called “Things that helped me.” Granted, we are all different, but each list offered real tangible ways to get over the lies that we tell ourselves.
My favorite quote is in chapter 12. “I cannot continue to live as half of myself simply because it’s hard for others to handle all of me.” This chapter really resonates with me because of how I downplay myself. I’ve said it before, but I’m not really a fan of compliments or being called out on my accomplishments.
It’s something social media now calls the imposter syndrome. I know I’ve accomplished some great things, but often times I don’t really see myself as great. Like somehow I lucked up and published 7 books or created a company without having much to offer. It never pays to downplay your accomplishments. This is something I have to remind myself daily.
- What I’ll take away from it:
A lot of people I look up to or that are in positions that I admire are doing it scared. They are doing it with fear and hesitation, but they are doing it. They are not letting their fears stop their passions from thriving and it seems to be working out for them. So what am I truly afraid of?
- What my intentions are:
I realize that as I grow older, my biggest fear has changed. The thing I fear most is leaving this earth knowing there were things I wanted or needed to write and didn’t. My words will outlive me. They will be my legacy. Leaving that unfinished scares me. My intentions are to leave everything I have on a page.
This book helped motivate me to push for this feeling. This fear has to be worse than my fear of rejection or fear of lack of support. I cannot live with that fear…so I have to push past it.
I am excited to read more this year. I am excited to write more than ever. I appreciate this book for flaming that fire.
Below are a few bonus quotes from “Girl Wash Your Face” that stood out to me.
“Your life is supposed to be a journey from one unique place to another; its not supposed to be a merry-go-round that brings you back to the same spot and over again.”
“Your subconscious knows that you, yourself, cannot be trusted after breaking so many plans and giving up on so many goals.”
“Whatever standard you set for yourself is where you’ll end up…unless you fight through your instinct and change your pattern.”
“Every day you are choosing who you are and what you believe about yourself, and you’re setting the standard for relationships in your life. Every day is a chance to start over.”
“I am successful because I refuse to take no for an answer.”
“You’ve already done little things and big things… goals you accomplished years ago that are on someone else’s bucket lists. Focus on what you when done. Pay attention to the tiny steps you took across the living room carpet on wobbly legs. Celebrate the small moments. They’re sacred even if they aren’t stepping stones to something else. Nothing is more important than today.”
“A larger part of why i didn’t want to be boastful is because i learned a long time ago that i was a little girl who had no clue what she was talking about. Being big while also being small is an impossible task for anyone”
“I cannot continue to live as half of myself simply because it’s hard for others to handle all of me.”
“It’s an offense to your soul to continue to treat yourself so badly.”
Have you read this book? What do you think? What was your favorite chapter?