Recovery Tip #1
Checking yourself of your bad habits is one of the best things you can do. It my network marketing business, we have what we call AHA moments. Anything that makes you stop and think or allows you to move from a stuck position can be an AHA moment.
I was listening to one of my friend’s vent about something, even though I called her to vent and I found myself very irritated. I feel like I’m usually the person that people dump their issues on. Sometimes I don’t even know why, because I may have little to no experience with what they’re dealing with. I got frustrated because I was trying to tell a story and they kind of cut me off.
Then I had an AHA moment. I was guilty of this myself. I’m guilty of relating someone else’s story back to me, or only listening to interject and not really understand. After asking my lovely Dynamic Image team their opinion, they confirmed it…I’m THAT friend.
So, all week, I’ve made it a point to think before I respond to my friends. I may have slipped a little, but for the most part I think I was able to check myself before I became that friend.
It’s okay to want to talk things out with your friends, especially those you feel are uplifting and not judgmental, but don’t forget that others need to vent as well. If you have a trusted circle, don’t be that selfish friend. Don’t be that negative friend. Don’t be that friend no one really wants to talk to.
What does this have to do with recovery? A lot! Realizing everything isn’t about you and often finding out that your situation isn’t really that bad. People close to you could be dealing with something a lot worse and may need their friends for advice and comfort. Recovery comes with being able to look outside of your bubble and bring new perspectives in.
Be a light to get a light.
2 thoughts on “Don’t be THAT friend”
Noted! I think we all become “that friend” every once in a while. Taking time to listen to understand and not simply respond will help all relationships. Thanks for sharing this!
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Yes! It’s definitely helped me already. Checking myself is very humbling and exciting at the same time. Lol if that makes sense.