Hating won’t make you great.

Have you ever gotten low key upset at ANOTHER engagement announcement on your social media? It could be your cousin or closest friend and while your commenting about how excited you are…a little piece of your heart is breaking?

 No…just me? Okay. Y’all lying….but it’s okay.

 Don’t start judging me like I’m not happy for my friends and their blessings. I am usually the first person throwing bridal and baby showers, but that doesn’t negate the fact that I get a little jealous.

 And it’s not an, “I wish they weren’t being blessed” jealous…but more of an “I feel left out” jealous. I will never not wish well on my friends and family. I will always celebrate their successes and blessings as if they were my own, but I’ll admit to feeling guilty for not being as excited as I could be sometimes.

I think I’m a good person, so why do I have these feelings? Why am I selfish enough to worry about my own personal shortcomings when my loved ones are sharing good news with me? It’s because I’m human. I accept that.

The difference between inevitable feelings and being a hater, is how you react. If you aren’t genuinely happy for the people around you and you seem to make EVERYTHING about you, it’s time to check yourself.

God reigns on the just and the unjust. That’s it. Period. You cannot be blessed by ignoring someone else’s blessing. You won’t be prettier by not complimenting someone else. You won’t get a promotion but discrediting someone who did. You won’t have a healthy relationship by sabotaging someone else’s. You won’t reach your goal weight by criticizing someone else’s health journey.

 See where I’m going with this?

Only flames that are burning can light another.

Be happy for your friends, sis. Your time is coming.



6 thoughts on “Hating won’t make you great.

  1. stefward321 says:

    I totally agree! As I get older, I find that being single and childless is a lonely position. Being genuinely happy for another seems to take strength from a place unknown place…lol! But I have learned that my blessings can actually be wrapped up in my celebration for someone who has entered the position I long for (relationship/parenthood/success). So no, you’re not the only one and it’s a struggle of many of us. Some just won’t admit it…lol!

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  2. Tiff says:

    I absolutely have low-key been sipping on that haterade at someone else’s success in an area I found myself lacking in. A friend of mine dated, got a well-paying job, engaged, got married, had a baby AND bought a house all in the time I was broke & forever struggling to find a dating situation that went past the first date. It got so bad I even cried at her wedding reception. I was happy for her on the outside, but on the inside I was SEETHING with jealously. I was in pain–won’t even attempt to deny that and MAD! I’m talking big mad. I felt like God was dangling a carrot in front of my face and ignoring my prayers for the good things that only He could supply.

    I did not understand what God was doing. It took years of me doing what I could to “fix” my unwanted situation, heartbreak, unnecessary pain and essentially digging myself into a hole that I couldn’t get myself out of. Eventually, I got to the place where I accepted that there is a season for everything and unfortunately (probably fortunately) it just wasn’t my season yet. Now here I am in a relationship that’s likely heading towards marriage with the understanding that each season comes with it’s own set of trials. Such is life.

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  3. Queen Jazze says:

    I can’t say I’ve ever hated on any of my friends. Maybe because of our ideas of happiness and things we want in life at the time are different. My bestfriend is married with a baby and I was genuinely happy for her but that’s not the life I want to live at this moment. At 24, I was more focused on if I can really wear purple lipstick like a nude lipstick lol I want to wear purple lips with everything! But I have had jealous moments on social media like what is she doing that I’m not doing. Like oh she’s popping like that as a plus size fashion blogger, I wouldn’t wear that outfit to the mall. Lol the hate is still real cause some of these chicks that are “style bloggers” suck! Put jeans and a tshirt on and call it fashion and then get 10k likes. I’m like are y’all serious right now. But is that hate ? Or do I have to right to just think some of their style pics are trash? 🤔🤔

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    • christiancashelle says:

      Well, a little bit. Lol no I don’t think it’s necessarily hating but wanting to know their success tips but if you bad mouthing them to other then that’s hating lol. So you’re good!


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