Have you ever gotten low key upset at ANOTHER engagement announcement on your social media? It could be your cousin or closest friend and while your commenting about how excited you are…a little piece of your heart is breaking?
No…just me? Okay. Y’all lying….but it’s okay.
Don’t start judging me like I’m not happy for my friends and their blessings. I am usually the first person throwing bridal and baby showers, but that doesn’t negate the fact that I get a little jealous.
And it’s not an, “I wish they weren’t being blessed” jealous…but more of an “I feel left out” jealous. I will never not wish well on my friends and family. I will always celebrate their successes and blessings as if they were my own, but I’ll admit to feeling guilty for not being as excited as I could be sometimes.
I think I’m a good person, so why do I have these feelings? Why am I selfish enough to worry about my own personal shortcomings when my loved ones are sharing good news with me? It’s because I’m human. I accept that.
The difference between inevitable feelings and being a hater, is how you react. If you aren’t genuinely happy for the people around you and you seem to make EVERYTHING about you, it’s time to check yourself.
God reigns on the just and the unjust. That’s it. Period. You cannot be blessed by ignoring someone else’s blessing. You won’t be prettier by not complimenting someone else. You won’t get a promotion but discrediting someone who did. You won’t have a healthy relationship by sabotaging someone else’s. You won’t reach your goal weight by criticizing someone else’s health journey.
See where I’m going with this?
Only flames that are burning can light another.
Be happy for your friends, sis. Your time is coming.